Worried about a friend
The fact that you noticed matters.
Telling someone you're worried about a friend isn't snitching — it's looking out for them. Here's how to help, and how to loop in SAP without breaking their trust.
What to watch for
- Sudden mood changes or pulling away from friends
- Talking about feeling hopeless, worthless, or like a burden
- Giving away meaningful belongings
- Increased substance use
- Self-harm marks or talk about hurting themselves
- Drastic changes in sleep, eating, or attendance
Do
- • Listen without trying to 'fix' it
- • Tell them you care and you're glad they told you
- • Ask directly: 'Are you thinking about hurting yourself?'
- • Stay with them if they're in immediate danger
- • Help them connect to a trusted adult or SAP
Don't
- • Promise to keep a safety secret — you can't carry that alone
- • Tell them they're overreacting or compare struggles
- • Wait to see if it gets better on its own
- • Try to be their therapist
Refer anonymously
On the contact form, select "A friend". You don't have to give your name. We'll reach out to them gently — they'll never know it was you who flagged it.
Refer a friend